Derriford Hospital 2023-02-21 Person 3 5 0

I came to hospital on thursday via ambulance because i was 23 weeks pregnant. I have a low placenta unlike my 3 previous pregnancies with my older children. On thursday morning i started to bleed heavy at home. I called an ambulance and got taken to the maternity ward. I have since been moved to Argyll ward. I have post Traumatic stress disorder and i was unable to contact my partner as he doesnt live with me anymore and had recently lost his phone. His mother managed to contact him and tell him and he travelled to hospital as soon as he could which was by the thursday evening. He is a veteran who has combat stress ptsd and dyslexia. Some of the staff were very supportive of us both during some of my stay he's visited as much as he can ( its now tuesday and im waiting for a scan to check on my placenta and baby growth. The staff were aware of safeguarding in place. However by partner was not drunk and was just worried , stressed, tired and concerned about me and our baby. He didnt understand why i was crying so i explained it was because i kept having tightening pains. We both tried to nap and rest up a bit but both found it stressful. I felt alot more pain free being able to hold his hand and also safe loved and calm when hugged and taking naps on my partners chest. It was lovely to be able to have some moments where we both felt like we could be there for eachother and our growing baby daughter who we worried about coming early. Sometimes i can overhear staff chatting about me and my partner and other patients in a more judgmental laughing about way which isnt good at all. Over the time i have heard on both wards comments like '"oh they thought it would be better if they had a baby " " aww shes scared about loosing the baby " When hes not been here at all at night ive heard them say " shes not had panic or anxiety at all " An just other random comments I can hear from the room im in and if i use the toliet or shower. I had a shower and i heard a comment " oh shes washed her belly i bet her pains start again " ect. I was actually trying to calm my unborn baby with the warm water and also my belly is very sore. I have also had random anxiety and panic attacks day and or night for the last 20 years or so.. Not sure why sime comments were made. I also asked a member of staff in the night for some advice about a low placenta and asked to learn about the tightings i had been having and why id bled an that i felt period pain an that tightenings were less painful but still uncomfy. Afterwards she went back to the deak and made commments to other staff which wasnt nice for me to hear as i explained to her i was just worried and just wanted more pregnancy care advice on what id been experiencing an for hopefully the rest of my pregnancy. I was made to feel bad for getting up at night just to have a wee and the fact i coudlnt settle to sleep well. I have been resting as much as i can i bed. Ive also been having nicotine alternatives instead of smoking which is stressful for me but at least im trying..